To talk about the hardest truth right from the get-go, sexual confidence sprouts from deep-seated insecurity. This may sprout from toxic standards set by society or a traumatic incident that you have faced previously and are yet to get over it subconsciously. In short, they happen due to certain unprocessed emotions. So you need to address the emotions that are putting a damper on your sexual confidence and get rid of them from their roots, to be able to own your body and physical self.
6 Ways To Boost Sexual Confidence
Know more about these 6 ways to go about reclaiming your sexual confidence.
1. Accept Yourself
Respect yourself for the way you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses, the whole of you – mind, body, and soul. Appreciate your positives and work on your negatives till you turn them into a part of you that makes you proud. And that is the first step towards making others see you the way you treat yourself. It always begins with YOU. The moment you feel confident, it will show in the way you portray yourself sexually as well.
2. Identify Your Problem Area
Get to the root of the problem to be able to deal with it actively. Ask yourself why you’re lacking in confidence sexually. Why is it that you’re not happy with your physical self? Why is it you’re not secure being completely naked in the bedroom? Start asking yourself questions and dig deep till these questions lead to several other queries that you can reflect on. Journal, if that helps you. It usually always does. Do a thorough soul-searching till the time you have found your answer.
3. Embrace Your Femininity
Apart from accepting yourself from the core, it is also essential for you to wholeheartedly be at one with your feminine energies. If you constantly obsess over the difficulties you feel about being a woman in a man’s world and believe you need to live, breathe, and behave like a man to be able to survive, you’re doing yourself more harm than good. By going against your core. Instead of believing you need to let yourself go to be able to sustain yourself, celebrate yourself, remain true to yourself, carry yourself with confidence, and work hard to rise and shine. In the bedroom and outside.Â
4. Explore Your Body
Boost the sexual relationship you share with yourself. Why, you ask? Exploring yourself gives you the confidence to remain so in the presence of your partner too. Establish intimacy with yourself before you explore the same with a partner. Some women are uncomfortable with getting between the sheets without the room being pitch-dark. That fans your sense of embarrassment, self-consciousness, and perhaps even shame for being your physical self.Â
If you feel the same, start by getting to the birthday suit, most importantly, when there’s enough light for you to see yourself. If it’s daytime, let yourself glow in natural sunshine or switch on the light. Appreciate yourself while looking in the mirror or explore with your fingers, and tell yourself constantly about how beautiful you are. With time, this will train your mind enough into believing that your body is worth appreciating, loving, and much more just the way it is.
5. Make A List Of Your Sexy Things
Take out your notebook or phone and make a list of things that you find sexy in yourself. Might feel difficult initially because we are attuned to obsess over all things negative and conveniently overlook all the positives. For instance, we hanker over better facial features – a pair of pouty lips or a sharper nose, but the moment you’re asked about the feature or quality that you like in yourself, most people don’t have a ready answer. They find themselves fumbling and jumbling up words to come up with a reply that they are convinced of. Make a conscious effort to think about all the sexy aspects of you – features, personality, a good deed you did recently, the last time you looked alluring, the one trick in bed that always works on your partner – anything. And keep adding to the list whenever anything worthwhile crosses your mind.
6. Wear Your Personality
Colours and fashion styles do wonders in pepping up your personality and boosting self-confidence, including your sexual persona. Hairstyle style, the fall of your hair, your glowing skin, or that lipstick that you feel is made just for you – everything adds to it. One pimple on the cheek and that’s enough for most women to go berserk or those limp tresses on a bad hair day can dampen your spirits like nothing else. So, slip into that dress of your favourite colour that accentuates your curves, spritz on that perfume that uplifts your mood, wear that lipstick that makes you feel like a diva, and step out like a boss lady.
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