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Women have long been made to feel guilty and ashamed in everyday circumstances. Almost every facet of our way of life is geared for us to either overthink or underplay. Society has a way of making us feel that everything we do is wrong, from being too pushy to being too kind. Ye mat karo, wo mat karo. We live in a society that constantly dictates terms to women about kya sahi aur kya galat behaviour hai. To punish us if we don’t adhere to their rigid and arbitrary norms, our society has created these extraterrestrial codes of conduct for women. As if living up to cultural ideals of an “ideal” woman were the only goal in life for women because “log kya kahenge.”
5 Things Women Get A Flak For After Getting Married
Not Wanting To Marry After Divorce Even after sacrificing everything for her children, women are still considered to be less than equipped for raising them all by herself. She needs that mixture of honour and reputation, which can only be obtained if she has a husband. “Akeli kaise sab sambhal payegi, beta” will always hover over her, if she decides not to get married after having children.
Deciding To Remarry Yes, the double standards! There are guffaws if she decides against getting remarried and then there are sniggers at her wanting to get married again. The vicious gossips and smirks thrown at you if you have decided to leave the past behind and have another man in your life is expecting to become a part of your life.
Having A Male Friend Suna to hoga na “ek ladka aur ek ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte”. This is not just a dialogue from the cult movie Kuchh Kuchh Hota Hai, it embodies the thought process of the society we live in. Why do we need to ruin beautiful friendships? Why do people sexualize this bond? Women can be married and still have male friends. It’s time people stop making this a big deal.
Wanting A Divorce “Beta, thoda compromise kar lo”. The public is always open to offering unsolicited advice and gyaan on the adjustments that women need to make for a happy, long-term marriage. As if the responsibility to make a marriage last is not the responsibility of the husband too. Divorce for mental sanity is not on the list since it is frowned upon, particularly for women. Simply suck down your misery in solitude and learn to tolerate suffering, and that too with a smile on your face.
Not Pushing Out A Baby Within A Few Months An Indian woman would never even consider having sex before getting married. Her purity is a holy entity. She is required to remain virgin until she marries the man her parents have chosen for her. The same individual would deflower her, and she shouldn’t forbid her spouse from having sex after they get married because sex has suddenly become significant.
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